So you’re a really nice guy who happens to be straight, white, and cisgender?
DON’T: Feel ashamed of being who you are
DO: Try to counteract the injustice that you benefit from
So you disagree with something a woman says about feminism?
DON’T: Suppress your opinions
DO: Listen carefully to her before you speak
So someone is criticizing straight, white, cis men as a group?
DON’T: Feel personally attacked
DO: Try to understand what they’re criticizing and resolve not be part of it
So you worry that you might be subconsciously prejudiced?
DON’T: Distrust your judgment: ”Can I really dislike this person? Is that racist, or sexist?”
DO: Scrutinize your judgment: ”I dislike this person, and that’s fine. But would I perhaps have disliked her a little less if she were a white man like me? Let’s make an effort to have the answer always be no.”
So you’re at the club? (Sorry, I started writing this thing before 2020)
DON’T: Be afraid to flirt with women
DO: Flirt respectfully, with an awareness of most women’s experience of harassment
So you made a comment that you now realize was hurtful to a minority?
DON’T: Invite self-loathing
DO: Apologize, and take pride in being a guy who learns from his mistakes 🙂
So you’re feeling down?
DON’T: Think your life can’t be HARD, just because you’re white, male, straight and cis!
DO: Simply keep in mind that being something else is probably HARDER.